I am exhausted today and I did nothing since the morning.

Do you also feel like this sometimes?

I hate it when I am stuck in such days. When my brain and my body just give in to the surrounding negative noises and my insecurities and fears crawl out of the shadows. It feels like I am falling in a bottomless pit with Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata playing in the background.

I know, it sounds really dramatic but until it lasts, it is something straight out of a horror movie. During these times, I have to adjust my routines to make space for my breakdowns and spirals while making sure I meet all my targets. This is life and I have accepted it as an indispensable part of it. But that doesn’t automatically solve the problem. What does help is talking to my friends.

As we grow older, we slowly start understanding the value of meaningful conversations. Its more than a mere exchange of words or ideas. A meaningful conversation allows yourself to be seen, heard, and understood. Care and curiosity lie at its foundation. Needless to say, this kind of space cannot be created with just anybody. You need someone who you share a deep connect with irrespective of how long you have known them or how old of young they are to you.

One of my friends recently shared, “It's harder to find a deep connect with people once we move out of college. The number gets significantly low.” I couldn’t agree more. More than money, I think as adults we should worry about losing our bonds with people over time. Unfortunately, this barely makes it to our priority list. I am guilty of the same crime.

Things changed for me when I started reaching out to people to share my emotions and feelings. I was surprised by how ready everyone was to be there for me. I also realized that each one of them also was seeking the same connect as myself. In reaching out, I didn’t just help myself, I also created a space for them to open up. The problems in our lives still remain after these conversations, what changes is our strength to deal with them.

We cannot just depend on one connect or one relationship to help us deal with our issues. We need a whole bouquet of bonds. This has been beautifully summarized by Shah Rukh Khan’s character in Dear Zindagi.

As humans, we all experience moments of doubt and insecurity. We crave connections with others, a space where we can be vulnerable and courageous at the same time. We often underestimate the people in our lives who care about us and see us in a different light than we see ourselves. It’s important to remember that we’re not alone in our struggles, and that reaching out to those who understand us can provide the strength we need to deal with life’s challenges. We don’t necessarily need someone to solve our problems for us, but rather people who believe in us and our ability to overcome obstacles on our own.

So, I encourage you to seek out those who can provide the care and remind you of your resilience or better yet just give you a big tight hug and tell you, “You are awesome, you will figure it out”.